Helping People Connect
| By Anne Hancock, Psy.D.
Just a simple reminder on how well you’re doing.
Those anxious moments you had a year ago are gone.
The problem was either resolved or it faded into the background. Something you live with but no longer think of as urgent.
Today there are other issues – for sure!
And, knowing you can get through every single overwhelming moment makes it easier to see what’s real.
When we give our attention to the important stuff instead of the panic within, we learn to build a cycle of goodness.
| By Anne Hancock, Psy.D.
Be brave.
Count blessings.
Express gratitude.
Observe.
Name it.
Claim it.
Speak Love.
| By Anne Hancock, Psy.D.
Some of my best thoughts come to me while in an airport security line or on the tarmac just before take-off OR on my morning walk.
They’re generous, complimentary and carry a sense of appreciation.
Inevitably, I don’t have a pen handy, my phone’s at the bottom of my purse and I’m not at my laptop.
So I make a mental note — Remember to tell Steven XYZ… I think it through, even rehearse it under my breath… and then it’s gone. I forget.
That thought, that wonderful big-hearted thought… the one that could be a gigantic gift and make his day, goes unsaid.
| By Anne Hancock, Psy.D.
Do you remember ‘When Harry Met Sally’?
This classic film came to mind as I returned to Charlotte, right after the recent Paris attacks.
I was over concerned about airport security that morning and got to my gate way too early. Fortunately, I noticed a Starbucks across the way and felt some relief as I walked over to have a cup of coffee.
The line was atrocious and snaked around the corner so I took a seat at the bar and kept an eye out for a possible break.
That’s when two people slid onto the stools next to me and settled in with their carry-ons.
| By Anne Hancock, Psy.D.
Every day is new and pregnant with possibility. A chance to start again.
What will you focus on?
Will you wake up with gratitude or grudges?
Will you see your partner’s greatness or imperfection?
| By Anne Hancock, Psy.D.
Happy couples aren’t perfect the way you might imagine. They fuss and disagree just like everyone else. What’s unique about these couples is that partners are able to step out of negative situations fairly quickly and they do it together. They don’t brood, attack or stonewall each other.
Partners are available and engaged in affirming ways. If there’s a misunderstanding or hurt feelings, they tend to the hurt rather than blame or defend. Partners are able to reach out, connect and repair even when things are difficult.
These aren’t sweeping gestures. They’re tiny, courageous acts of love that have huge impact and bring lovers close.
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