Charlotte, North Carolina Couples Counseling

Couples Counseling

Private Sessions and Consults Scheduled Week-to-Week as Your Calendar Allows

Both In-Person and Online Sessions Available

Our unique couples counseling program in Charlotte, NC, is private and customized. Your first four (4) meetings make up our Assessment and Discovery phase. You may schedule appointments with a Wellness Counseling Center professional of your choice and at your convenience. Imagine, finally finding someone you trust who can provide valuable insight to the negative spiral that is taking your relationship down.

It’s important for you to know Wellness’ services are based on best practices of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), a science based method with over 20 years of empirical research. These well researched studies consistently show 70-75% of couples move from distress to recovery and approximately 90% show significant improvements; typically within 8-20 sessions. At Wellness Counseling, we find 16 sessions to be optimal for most couples although some couples complete their goals in less.

Let’s explore: Your Assessment and Discovery Phase begins with these four sessions:

  • One (1) 90-Minute Initial Consultation
  • Two (2) Individual Therapy Sessions — one each for you and your partner
  • One (1) 80-Minute Couples Therapy Session

Learn more about your first four meetings below:

90-Minute Initial Consultation

This first consultation moves quickly, and we begin by aligning with you as we review and assess your relationship. By seeing you as a couple and asking a lot of questions, we learn as much as we possibly can about how your relationship works.

  • In relationship counseling, we ask three (3) critical questions and want to know your issues, as well as your goals and objectives.
  • We take a full family history because you and your partner are different, and we celebrate that.
  • We want to know what each of you learned in your family about being in a relationship.
  • We also begin tracking the distressing patterns and interactions happening between you and your partner: Do you argue or fight? If so, how does it start? Do you pursue or do you distance? How does this happen? And, what does tension look like between you and your partner?

Our professionals take the time we need to parachute into your relationship, catch a glimpse of your negative cycle and begin tracking it with you. By the time you leave, you will have an assignment and a sense of what relationship therapy you need to do next.

50-Minute Individual Sessions

In the two (2) individual 50-minute counseling sessions, we want to see you and your partner alone. This gives your therapist the opportunity to know each of you better and take time to hear both points of view. People in distressed relationships almost always need to get a few things off their chest and, at this point in time, it is usually easier to express yourself without your partner in the room. We want you to feel freer to explore your concerns, as well as your hopes and dreams about the future. In these sessions, we are looking for attachment themes. That means we gather more information specifically about you, your earlier relationships and how your family functioned when you were growing up.

80-Minute Couple Session

In your follow-up 80-minute session, we give you feedback. By this time, your therapist has a clearer understanding of where each person comes from, the model you grew up with and the current state of your relationship. We provide feedback on how you and your partner grew apart and what is required to repair your relationship. We work collaboratively and help you determine a next step. These 80-Minute Couple Sessions are the centerpiece in our work with couples and families. The work is collaborative and the task is to access emotions and behaviors that have your relationship stuck in a downward spiral. We help you and your partner identify them and talk about them — in a new way. Bit by bit, as you begin to see things differently, and change starts to happen. Some couples find this Assessment and Discovery work satisfying and sufficient. At Wellness Counseling Center, we have found 16 sessions of couples therapy in Charlotte, NC to be optimal for most couples, although some complete their goal earlier and we support that choice. Most couples want to continue their work and turn their relationship around.

EXTRA: 80-Minute Extended Individual Session

Even while undergoing couples counseling in Charlotte, you occasionally may want some extended alone-time to explore a special concern. This is an opportunity for exploration and growth. To keep things in alignment, your partner should plan for alone-time too.

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“We went to Wellness for an entire year and then some. We are proof that marriage can survive infidelity. We are now 8.5 yrs. after (18 yrs. total) and we are stronger than I ever imagined it would be. The guidance in our recovery was key to our marriage surviving.”