With new beginnings, it’s good to be clear on what you value.
But, the power is always in your questions.
You can ask; what’s fast, cheap and easy?
Or you can ask:
Helping People Connect
| By Anne Hancock, Psy.D.
| By Anne Hancock, Psy.D.
I imagine some couples glide thru life and wake up cheerful every day. They agree on most issues, share everything, and use their energy in a perfectly harmonious division of duties. I’ve never met one of those couples but movies and magazines want us to believe they’re out there somewhere.
More human and more admirable is the couple who – when things are stressful – stumbles and struggles to find ways to reach for each other without blaming or defending, winning or losing. Those partners look for ways to understand and support. They lean into each other when the need is urgent; talk, hold hands or sit silently letting the other know ‘I’m here for you.’ That kind of warmth and reassurance takes courage especially when others would give up and walk away.
| By Anne Hancock, Psy.D.
Some couples spend an enormous amount of energy trying to get their partner to comply.
You know it’s happening when the ‘shoulding’ starts.
You shouldn’t load the dishwasher that way.
You should be happy I loaded it.
Your apology doesn’t sound sincere. You should say it like this….
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