Helping People Connect
| By Anne Hancock, Psy.D.
Just a simple reminder on how well you’re doing.
Those anxious moments you had a year ago are gone.
The problem was either resolved or it faded into the background. Something you live with but no longer think of as urgent.
Today there are other issues – for sure!
And, knowing you can get through every single overwhelming moment makes it easier to see what’s real.
When we give our attention to the important stuff instead of the panic within, we learn to build a cycle of goodness.
| By Anne Hancock, Psy.D.
Can you relate? It happens to all of us.
It’s that moment in your relationship when things are great and suddenly someone gets triggered.
The conversation goes off the rails and your partner makes NO sense.
Communication goes in circles and you both feel frustrated, hurt and confused.
Intuitively you know it’s a negative loop – one that’s almost impossible to stop.
You’ve been here 100 times before and you want to stop it………. but you can’t
You’d love to get your point across. But, what you want MOST is to be heard and understood.
Sometimes you’re left wondering what the heck the argument was even about.
YOU ARE NOT ALONE!
These negative cycles are UNIVERSAL and every couple has them.
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| By Anne Hancock, Psy.D.
Be brave.
Count blessings.
Express gratitude.
Observe.
Name it.
Claim it.
Speak Love.
| By Anne Hancock, Psy.D.
Happy couples aren’t perfect the way you might imagine. They fuss and disagree just like everyone else. What’s unique about these couples is that partners are able to step out of negative situations fairly quickly and they do it together. They don’t brood, attack or stonewall each other.
Partners are available and engaged in affirming ways. If there’s a misunderstanding or hurt feelings, they tend to the hurt rather than blame or defend. Partners are able to reach out, connect and repair even when things are difficult.
These aren’t sweeping gestures. They’re tiny, courageous acts of love that have huge impact and bring lovers close.
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