Couples Counseling Articles

Want to Stop Bickering?

If you’ve recovered from the 2018 holiday season…got thru Super Bowl Sunday, Valentine’s Day and the switch to daylight savings time…and if you’re back in the daily grind of bickering with your partner…maybe even in front of the children…you are not alone!

You might even be wondering…

How on earth did we get here?

All couples have challenges and most of us get sucked into the tasks that keep our lives afloat – careers, kids, homework, meal prep, finances and transportation.

In the overwhelm of daily living we can either lose focus on the most important thing of all, our intimate relationship or we put it on hold hoping it will (magically) get better.

If you repeatedly tell yourself to be patient and give it another six months, it’s time to take a closer look.

I see five common distress signals in my office over and over again and if you’re experiencing any one of these symptoms, it’s time to consider a new approach:

  • You have the same argument repeatedly and you can’t get out of the loop.
  • You’ve reached a tipping point and want to do something to keep things from getting worse.
  • You love your partner, yet you’re thinking about separation or divorce. You want to get off that slippery slope.
  • An emotional or physical affair decimated your relationship and you want to trust or be trusted again.
  • You’d love to start a new conversation and communicate differently.

If even one of these symptoms is familiar and you’re ready for a change, consider one of our private accelerated programs.

Both programs are personalized and move quickly from big picture to your specific issue(s). The 1-Day Intensive is especially convenient for busy couples who live locally. It completes our assessment and discovery phase and covers 4-6 weeks of therapy in a single day. The 2-1/2 Day Intensive is designed for couples who want to take the deep dive and accomplish 10-12 weeks of therapy in a weekend.

Each program is a powerful launchpad that will help you and your partner re-create that special connection you once shared.

During an intensive, we’ll help you and your partner identify your issues, concerns and the biggest obstacle(s) in your relationship. We’ll track your negative cycle, review family history and discuss all your relationship goals and objectives. Most importantly, we’ll help you and your partner start a new conversation – one that’s both collaborative and compassionate.

Ultimately, you’ll begin a journey together to feel…

  • seen
  • heard
  • appreciated
  • understood
  • valued

…again by the person who means the most to you.

We do ONLY one or two intensives each month and it takes a very special person to participate in this kind of focused approach.

If you’d like to check us out and see if an intensive is right for you let’s talk, heart-to-heart. Call 704-319-5593 or email us and my team will be happy to set up a 20-minute consult.

Here are some kind words from couples who’ve participated in the past:

“There are no words to properly describe how impactful the intensive retreat was… It changed our relationship and my life profoundly.”

“We left truly believing that there is hope for happiness and peace.”

If you’re struggling and want positive change, let us know and we’ll get started.