It doesn’t help to tell your partner how much you hurt or what a disappointment they’ve been unless you’re willing to look at the whole picture.
They’ll take it as an attack and fight back with an argument or they’ll shut down. None of that works.
You can’t have a real conversation with your partner until you can agree on what happens between you. You’ve got to be willing to look at the data.
Ah-ha moments come with new insights. By seeing patterns… and recognizing how we effect each other when we dismiss, blame, criticize and ignore.
Without exploring what’s really happening, it’s impossible to accomplish much.
After all, when we don’t like what’s happening, it’s easiest to blame somebody else. “It’s not me, it’s you…” Then you’re off the hook.
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