Private Sessions and Consults Scheduled Week-to-Week as Your Calendar Allows
Our unique program is private and customized. Your first four (4) meetings make up our Assessment and Discovery phase. Appointments may be scheduled with a Wellness professional of your choice and at your convenience. Imagine, finally finding someone you trust who can provide valuable insight to the negative spiral that is taking your relationship down.
- One (1) 90-Minute Initial Consultation
- Two (2) individual sessions — one for you and one for your partner and
- One (1) 80-Minute Couples Session
Learn more about your first four meetings below:
90-Minute Initial Consultation
This first consultation moves quickly and we begin by aligning with you as we review and assess your relationship. By seeing you as a couple and asking a lot of questions we learn as much as we possibly can about how your relationship works.
- We ask three (3) critical questions and want to know your relationship issues, as well as your goals and objectives.
- We take a full family history because you and your partner are different and we celebrate that. We want to know what each of you learned in your family about being in a relationship.
- We also begin tracking the distressing patterns and interactions happening between you and your partner: Do you argue or fight? If so, how does it start? Do you pursue or do you distance? How does this happen? And, what does tension look like between you and your partner?
We take the time we need to parachute into your relationship, catch a glimpse of your negative cycle and begin tracking it with you. By the time you leave, you will have an assignment and a sense of what you need to do next.
50-Minute Individual Sessions
In the your two (2) individual 50-minute counseling sessions we want to see you and your partner alone. This gives your therapist the opportunity to know each of you better and take time to hear both points of view. People in distressed relationships almost always need to get a few things off their chest and, at this point in time, it is usually easier to express yourself without your partner in the room. We want you to feel freer to explore your concerns, as well as your hopes and dreams about the future. In these sessions we are looking for attachment themes. That means we gather more information specifically about you, your earlier relationships and how your family functioned when you were growing up.
80-Minute Couple Session
In your follow-up 80-minute session we give you feedback. By this time your therapist has a clearer understanding of where each person comes from, the model you grew up with and the current state of your relationship. We provide feedback on how you and your partner grew apart and what is required to repair your relationship. We work collaboratively and help you determine a next step. These 80-Minute Couple Sessions are the centerpiece in our work with couples and families. The work is collaborative and the task is to access emotions and behaviors that have your relationship stuck in a downward spiral. We help you and your partner identify them and talk about them — in a new way. Bit by bit, as you begin to see things differently, and change starts to happen. Some couples find this Assessment and Discovery work satisfying and sufficient. At Wellness, we have found 16 sessions to be optimal for most couples although some complete their goal earlier and we support that choice. Most couples want to continue their work and turn their relationship around.
EXTRA: 80-Minute Extended Individual Session
Occasionally you may want some extended alone-time to explore a special concern. This is an opportunity for exploration and growth. To keep things in alignment, your partner should plan for alone-time too.