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Intensives For Couples in Charlotte - North Carolina

We Got The Wrong Message!

Somehow, we got the message that love is mystical and magical. That it appears, then disappears. Motivates us. Confuses us. And, of course, we have no control over it.

Not true!

Over the past 10 years or so we’ve learned a lot about love. Brain science has completely changed our understanding of what’s possible when it comes to shaping a loving relationship.

So much so that our whole culture is shifting and personal expectations are growing. Have you noticed? While we used to settle for good enough, today we want connection.

We want to be cherished, accepted, respected and understood. We want more from our partners and while it doesn’t have to be perfect… we believe we deserve better.

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Want to Stop Bickering?

If you’ve recovered from the 2018 holiday season…got thru Super Bowl Sunday, Valentine’s Day and the switch to daylight savings time…and if you’re back in the daily grind of bickering with your partner…maybe even in front of the children…you are not alone!

You might even be wondering…

How on earth did we get here?

All couples have challenges and most of us get sucked into the tasks that keep our lives afloat – careers, kids, homework, meal prep, finances and transportation.

In the overwhelm of daily living we can either lose focus on the most important thing of all, our intimate relationship or we put it on hold hoping it will (magically) get better.

If you repeatedly tell yourself to be patient and give it another six months, it’s time to take a closer look.

I see five common distress signals in my office over and over again and if you’re experiencing any one of these symptoms, it’s time to consider a new approach:

  • You have the same argument repeatedly and you can’t get out of the loop.
  • You’ve reached a tipping point and want to do something to keep things from getting worse.
  • You love your partner, yet you’re thinking about separation or divorce. You want to get off that slippery slope.
  • An emotional or physical affair decimated your relationship and you want to trust or be trusted again.
  • You’d love to start a new conversation and communicate differently.

If even one of these symptoms is familiar and you’re ready for a change, consider one of our private accelerated programs.

Both programs are personalized and move quickly from big picture to your specific issue(s). The 1-Day Intensive is especially convenient for busy couples who live locally. It completes our assessment and discovery phase and covers 4-6 weeks of therapy in a single day. The 2-1/2 Day Intensive is designed for couples who want to take the deep dive and accomplish 10-12 weeks of therapy in a weekend.

Each program is a powerful launchpad that will help you and your partner re-create that special connection you once shared.

During an intensive, we’ll help you and your partner identify your issues, concerns and the biggest obstacle(s) in your relationship. We’ll track your negative cycle, review family history and discuss all your relationship goals and objectives. Most importantly, we’ll help you and your partner start a new conversation – one that’s both collaborative and compassionate.

Ultimately, you’ll begin a journey together to feel…

  • seen
  • heard
  • appreciated
  • understood
  • valued

…again by the person who means the most to you.

We do ONLY one or two intensives each month and it takes a very special person to participate in this kind of focused approach.

If you’d like to check us out and see if an intensive is right for you let’s talk, heart-to-heart. Call 704-319-5593 or email us and my team will be happy to set up a 20-minute consult.

Here are some kind words from couples who’ve participated in the past:

“There are no words to properly describe how impactful the intensive retreat was… It changed our relationship and my life profoundly.”

“We left truly believing that there is hope for happiness and peace.”

If you’re struggling and want positive change, let us know and we’ll get started.

Most Couples Have What it Takes…

Here’s a quick reminder that relationships take effort…. sometimes more than we realize.

Regardless of what challenges you might be facing in your relationship, I’ve found that most couples have what it takes to make it through.

But it does mean you’ll both have to be invested in a new kind of effort — one that engages your partner and brings them close.

At Wellness our 1 Day and 2 1/2 Day Intensives create the special kind of environment where you can explore these concepts and talk about what’s MOST important – without that dreaded negative spin.

Intensives are private, gentle yet powerful and safe. Each intensive is designed to help you launch a conversation you’re unlikely to have on your own.

Dr Sue Johnson (creator of EFT- the method we use at Wellness) spoke at Christ Church here in Charlotte a while ago to a standing room only crowd.

She talked about emotional connection; what it is, how we lose it and how we can get it back.

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Before That Clock Strikes Midnight on December 31st

It’s almost 2019 and I want to end the year with a HUGE thank you.

Throughout 2018 I’ve been moved by the warm comments you’ve shared with me about how our workshops and Intensives have impacted your life.

Seeing couples like you create real, affirmative change means more to me than just about anything on this planet.

“There are no words to properly describe how impactful the intensive retreat was… It changed our relationship and my life profoundly.”

“This workshop was very helpful for my husband and I in learning a new, more intimate way of talking to each other about our needs. We both feel we have reached a new level of connecting and communicating and that we are working together better as partners since attending.”

I know you’re committed to LOVE and to loving relationships so before that clock strikes midnight on December 31st, check out this short list to see if our Intensives and Workshops make sense for you or someone you care about:

You have the same arguments over and over again and you can’t get out of the loop.

You want to have conversations that bring you closer and create connection.

Your relationship is at a tipping point and you want to keep things from getting worse.

You experienced an emotional or physical affair and you want to re-establish trust.

You’re unclear how things got so stressful between you and you’re ready for a change.

If any one of these resonate, you need to join us in 2019. It’s a perfect gift and you can supercharge your results with our special pricing.

Use this $250 gift voucher to register for an Intensive before December 31 ……and attend in 2019! Simply set up your Intensive with Beth McCain or Jennifer Holladay before year-end. I invite you to meet Beth McCain and Jennifer Holliday by watching their videos below:

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