When you drop a glass on the kitchen floor it’s not confusing because you know it’s broken and you know what to do.
You sweep it up carefully and throw it away.
It’s not so clear when things deteriorate slowly…especially with big ticket items like your house or car. You have to pay attention and you’ll need knowledge and wisdom to assess the situation.
You’ll also have to use judgement and decide when and how to make repairs.
This is true for relationships too….and everything else that matters.