Couples Counseling Articles

Star Stuff and Love

We dream of stability and permanence. What shows up is confusion and paradox.

Sometimes being in an intimate relationship means choosing between compromise/conformity and taking a powerful stand for uniqueness instead; two people on separate and individual journeys – together.

One is riskier and means moving from what we know to what we don’t know.

Kind of like when the ancients suspected that Earth was not the fixed center, and was moving at unimaginable speed beneath their feet. It took thousands of years to prove this theory and in 1929, Edwin Hubble, established that we live in an ever expanding Universe.

Hubble’s work stands on the shoulders of Henrietta Swan Leavitt (1868-1921). She was a relatively unknown astronomer who shaped our understanding of space long before women could vote. She graduated from The Society for the Collegiate Instruction of Women (later Radcliffe College) in 1892 and received a certificate which stated, had she been a man, she would have qualified for a B.A.

Leavitt’s work was all about stars, distance and light. Binary stars need each other’s gravitational pull to co-exist. If for a moment, you can imagine yourself made of star stuff, then the parallels of her work and the fundamentals of partnership come into focus.